Revelation

No not the book, I mean I've just had some revelation on scripture. A blindingly obvious one.
Here's the scripture.

Ephesians 5

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing^[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."^[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Here's the revelation:

My relationship with my wife has been seriously out of wak, for many reasons that I am not going to mention as they are way too personal.

What I am specifically talking about is: "Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the Church"

This is a huge statement, just consider how Christ feels about His people and what he did for them.

His love has no bounds, He did what ever was necessary to protect his people. His people are His love and His passion, no other can take His place.

Yes, that's right He was willing to die, He was willing to put them first, and He did!

There is lot more I could say on this matter, but I will leave you men to consider it for yourselves.

The women out there can also consider what is said in the rest of the scripture.

They are all huge statements, not to be taken lightly, but to be given the utmost consideration and attention!

Strength

Where does our strength lie?
What will it stand up to?
How long before it fails?

If my strength is in my own ability then it will fail as I am finite and therefore so is my strength.
This is something I have known for many years but recently come to experience in a more acute and personal way. I have been battling with my own weaknesses and have found that I have come up short of my own expectations. Maybe they have been unrealistic expectations, but I have found that we all have unreasonable and unattainable pedestals that we have put ourselves and each other on!
I can not achieve these heights, and that, I sometimes find difficult to accept, particularly in regard to my marriage.

There is only one perfection that I know of, and He is my strength, and one who I must learn to rely on more and more.